Relationships are something that's pure eternally and the presence of love doesn't search for any meaning to keep it going.

There are people eagerly waiting to place price tags and bring checklists to identify if the relationship among two people is worthy or not for its existence

But the great poet "sempula peyanerar" defines what it is to feel being loved in just 5 lines.

In his lines…

" yaayum gnayum yaraagiyaro

enthaiyum nunthaiyum yemmurai kezhir

yaanum neeyum yevvazhi arithum

chempula peyal neer pol

anbudai nenjam thaan kalanthanave.

யாயும் ஞாயும் யாரா கியரோ

எந்தையும் நுந்தையும் எம்முறைக் கேளிர்

யானும் நீயும் எவ்வழி யறிதும்

செம்புலப் பெயனீர்  போல

அன்புடை நெஞ்சம் தாங்கலந் தனவே."

                   - செம்புலப் பெயனீரார்

He describes how relationships take root. In the First line "yaayum gnayum yaraagiyaro ", he says our mothers are strangers and they don't share any relationship, in the following line “enthaiyum nunthaiyum yemmurai kezhir “he says that our fathers aren't related anyway. 

Then in the following lines he says that we don't know each other nor are we related, yet we are united with that one aspect of life called love.

Just like how the rain mixed up with the red sand, we became one with the purest form of love.

The rainwater took the character of the soil and turned into red water, while soil is also nowhere less than the water and it also adapted to the nature of the water and took different shapes and resulted as clay.

And in the end it stood as one.

Isn't that romantic? It is of course!!!

Isn't it how things go? How relationships work? Relationships just bloom, it doesn't come after ticking all the criteria of a checklist.

Let's just narrow it down. Many people nowadays carry a checklist to find a partner. When you look at the checklist, how many out of it are qualities? In Most of the cases this is still a big question mark.

A well settled groom earning around a lakh per month, who is settled with a house, bikes and car is what most of the people look out for a girl with the degree and  whose parents can afford to give the girl a few sovereigns of gold and gifts to the groom.

A well spent, big belly man's kind of marriage just brings wealth from either side and adds up together. This is totally contradictory from how the great poet described the relationship.

The key element “love" has gone missing and we aren't even bothered to look for its presence.

People come up with the age old dialogue “these two will fall in love eventually". If that’s the reality then why are the courts filled with harassment cases and divorce cases?

Love doesn't hurt anybody and the person in love with something or someone doesn’t even think about hurting them.

Pooling up of wealth through a marriage won't plant love in the hearts of the ones getting married. Love should happen. Just like how plants take their time to grow, love also has its own time scale and pace.

Setting up a general scale and asking everyone to function according to it it's totally unfair.

The current generation should make it a point and make sure the relationship that they are going to choose for themselves is not a way to pool in wealth but, bringing in a complete human being to celebrate love and life for the rest of their life.

More of love, understanding and respecting each other; less of harassment, getting hurt and cases in family courts.